Trauma Driven (T-D)

This is the most dangerous of all the subtypes.  I have just come out of a bad relationship, and you are currently in or coming out of a bad relationship, also.  The next concept is, so let’s get together.  Now, what do you think is going to happen?  There will just be one big ball of trouble and conflict.  Two dysfunctional people are not a good match for each other.  If both sets of the goods are damaged and without resolve, conflict is bound to stir-up in the very near future.  Have you ever seen two traumatized individuals in what they call love?  It is a mess!

This is how it starts out.  They are passionately in love and inseparable.  However, very quickly, they began to identify each others vulnerabilities.  Things began to escalate and then the masquerade diminishes.  Once this phenomenon occurs, comments like, “Now I know why your wife/husband left you”!  Then, “You ain’t no good and I should have left you where I found you!”  and “Why did I make the same mistake again?  You are just like my Ex.”  These statements are infuriating!  Trauma drives the drama.

It is important to connect with an emotionally stable people.  You may ask the question, “How can I tell if the person I love is emotionally stable?”  If you have to ask, you probably should not be in a relationship, because you, too, probably need a “corrective emotional experience”.  Now, if you need to know what this is, call your insurance company and get into therapy with a board-certified Psychiatrist.  In essence, trauma-driven relationships don’t work.  Be careful if they are attractive, have words like Solomon, or perform the greatest sex in the world, this can still be emotionally dangerous.  This type of relationship can end with physical, verbal, and or emotional abuse, also.

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