How to Tell if Your MAN is GAY!!

Posted on 24 May 2010.

1. He is pre-occupied with his nails and feet (>1 manicure in a month).

2. He requires pornography to have sex with you. (Which person is he looking at, the girl or the boy? Pay close attention to his eyes.)

3. He usually smells better than you(excessive cologne).

4. He dresses you and his mother (and does a good job).

5. All of his best friends are female.

6. His best male friend is not married, does not have a girlfriend, and is ALWAYS at your house.

7. The frequency of your sexual relations has been diminishing over time.

8. Sex with him feels funny.

9. He likes going to church musicals.

10. He goes missing for extended periods of time (every weekend) and when he finally comes home, he jumps right in the guest room shower.

Enough Said,

Dr. O

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Essdie

OH PLEASE!!! There are FAR better ways than these to know if a man is gay!
1. Why would I consider him gay because he is considerate enough not to cut me with outrageous toenails?
2. Porn can be fun regardless of preference.
3. When did good hygiene become reserved for gay men?
4. THIS IS TRUE
5. So if a woman has male friends, is she a lesbian?
6. Most married men don’t have time to hang out with single buddies, so how do you conclude two single men are gayif they are friends?
7.
Essdie

Pt.2
7. Decreased sexual activity is more likely a sign of boredom or fatigue- not gender preference.
8. If sex feels funny, sombody isn’t doing something right…gay or straight!
9. Church musicals! Are you serious?! Are you saying that gospel music symbolizes homsexuality? Why do so many young heterosexual Christian couples attend?
10. Extended periods of inaccounted time indicate a cheater.

Have I Said Enough?
Kelly

I agree with Essdie. In response to item #10….. that stands for both heterosexual and homosexual relationships….That situation happens either way. There’s is probably no way to determine by looking at or smelling a person’s private area whether they are having same sex or opposite sex activities. Out of the 10 statements on here, I believe 9 of them make no sense in determining whether a man is gay or not……
Devils Advocate

Okay lets be real…As much as we try to be politically correct everyone knows that whether the guy may be gay or ultra feminine these are definite signs of not being completely straight…I am sure that me and my peers would agree that all ten of the signs are TRUE….

Truth of the matter is lets be REAL!!
Babydoll

I agree with Kelly, I can tell you how you can tell if your man is gay ;
-When he shave his under arm hair
-When take his boxers to be clean
-When he want to have sex in the anal
-When he want to always be around men,and never make time for you.
I can go on,but it might scare some folks.
admin

This is certainly a hot topic. However, this issue needs to be discussed because heterosexual transmissionof HIV is very high in some communities.
Yolanda

I think that for the most part the above “signs” are a bit tongue and cheek and are there to get the conversation started. Honestly if you don’t know that your mate is gay then you have a serious communication problem and shouldn’t be in a serious relationship anyway.

Either you are so blind by the glare of being in a “romantic relationship” that you can’t see the rainbow forest for the hot pink trees or you DO KNOW that your partner is gay but are too afraid to broach the topic. In any case, being gay is not a choice, its not a disease, it’s a predisposition. And before you decide to become a couple, all doubts should be strewn across the proverbial table and discussed…Nuff Said???
D. Antonio

My former Pastor, the late great Dr.Nathan L.Simmons stated, “If you will arch your eyebrows men, you will arch something else(your back)!
Sharitta

Theres nothing wrong with a man pampering himself but when you go as far as arching your eyebrows and trimming other parts you know that something is not right with him! Especially when his eyebrows are arched better than yours! An alarm also should go off in your head when you want to have relations and he only wants anal sex!!!!!!
ChaCha

From most of the items on the list, I believe that a man whether straight, bisexual, or gay should have good hygiene. The way we define gender in today’s society makes the list more valid. I’m sure by looking at the list, some people think you still can’t tell if a man is straight or gay. Yet, we were raised a certain way men and women should act, and that’s the reason the list is valid. I do have a variety of gay friends, while some may define themselves as being more masculine or feminine, the list really gives only a few clues of the vast array that differentiates from man-to-man. Trust me there are more ways to tell.

Also to the comment from the admin about heterosexual transmission of HIV. . .it’s called using protection regardless of sexuality. I’m sure that using unprotected sex in a monogamous/committed relationship shows a form of trust or being comfortable with one another, and I think that is the underlying issue in that case and being open and honest with one another. However, those that are non-monogamous. . .well, all I can say protection, protection, protection! No one should judge. .just educate.
Anthony

I don’t think that if a man has all female friends it makes him gay. She might have other issues to worry about.
MyTruth

What makes a man gay is his sexual activities. This sends a sign out to men that women are looking for bad hygiene, unibrows, boring sex, and no cultured men. Guys are scared to breath as is, wearing cloths 3 and 4 sizes too big, because anything else could put you in the category of ‘gay’. No matter how many signs you look for the truth is until you catch your man in the act you just don’t know.
DOA

And in this corner weighing in at 1000lbs, DOA!!!!!! Now are these the top 10 beacons thats says a man is gay? Well im gonna weigh in on each one anyway.NAILS? Men that likes to keep clean and nice looking nails cant be labled gay. Women are the main reason a man wanna have clean nails and feet cuz we hear it all the time, “he got dirty nails and bad feet. this mans cares about what they think. i for one like to keep my nails clean and even outside of working and when im out on the town cuz i know ladies pick up on such small details. PORN. This only says he or they need a little booster to get the sex going. porn has this magical way of jump starting sex even when it far from mind especially in women. Another thing is that it can be bordom on the mans behalf because his lady wants to have sex but he just aint feeling so he uses the stimulation porn provides to get him in the mood. SO FRESH? Im speaking on me and i think i speak for some other men too. I love to smell fresh as a rose when i step on the scene clean and i know you ladies love a well dressed and good smelling man. i want them smell me before they see me!!! Its not my fault if i am smelling better than my lady it not something i would go out my way to do.but really, who’s judging? DRESS THE LADIES? So not gay. who better to dress a woman. a man who dresses women knows what men like to see women in. Tell the truth ladies, you all dress to impress us men on the everyday basis. if its mom then we will tone it down(cuz that is our mama and we aint and cant see sexy) yet have her attractively dressed to catch a papa, thats if she looking or just to be a tease. if its his lady then he will want her to fliest thing in the room on the street anywere. He know what the guys like to see and he knows THAT THERE yall drooling over is going home with him after the evening out. Just might make the sex hotter. CHEIF LOTSA FEMALE FRIENDS, WHAT? Man a dude with females friends got it good. this can provide him a network of potential girlfriends or cut buddies. i dont mean his friends but the friends and family of them. Females friends also can provide him pointers on how to be a good lover of a woman and females are more compasionate and encouraging when you have problems. HOMIE LONELY, This can be suspect. But then again his friend just might be a lame. He might be the only cool friend the lame has. The only time he got laid is with the clout of him. thats why he womanless and always around. LOW FREQUENCY SEX? Bored or getting it somewhere else. FUNNY SEX? The sex is boring and he doing his best just to make u happy. but u detect the sex aint right. CHUUUUCH MUSIC? Dont see nothing gay about this. Are all the performers gay?M.I.A? He cheating, dont matter if it with a man or woman. Now with that being said. The only way you will ever know if your man is gay. Is if you catch him in a sexual act with another man or watching gay porn. There is no excuse for any heterosexual man to be even glimpsing at gay porn. OH!!! One more thing. dont let a masculine macho man and feminine man fool you cuz you will be surprised that the girly like man lays down with all the ladies and the hard core thugged out man smokes “poles” and hit crack. I know this cuz its gay guy who dont mind sharing his secrets with his girlfriends about who he do on the low on the regular. Just imagine Jeezy,Gucci these the type of dudes i’m talking about. And everytime i see them cats i cant help but think about what i heard. they street cred with me is busted. So ladies you need to be more aware of MR Swaggtastic STR8 UP
Jontevius Johnson

The general consensus here is that … many of the listed attributes to help identify if your man is gay are far from correct. I am one who puts personal grooming at the top of my priority list. I love fashion but I tell you I am 100% M.A.N ^_^ But the “has to watch porn to have sex” was hilarious and questionable.

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JADB

I’m extremely late to the convo, but can we just say the only way to tell a man is gay is if he’s having sex with other men. Showing qualities of being gay does not equate to actually being gay.

admin

@JADM What if you have sex with both men and women?

Nona

I for one, would LOVE to see more on this topic! Since some men won’t be honest with themselves about their sexual preference, then we as women have to be pro-active and protective of our hearts, minds, bodies and souls. Especially young women, need to be educated on this very real subject. It could save a life of a young woman! What if her man is on the DL and he is HIV+? And if he is not willing to be honest with himself about what he likes, he sure isn’t gonna be honest with her!

PLEASE TELL!

AskDrO

@Nona we have got to get the word out and I hope that you share this link with as many women as possible… Thanks

Nona

Oh TRUST! I have posted this on my FB and I am going to incite discussion on this very real topic! I dated a gay man a few years back. And it was a very painful experience. I really loved him and knew deep down inside he was gay. But I was in denial. We almost got married until I listened to that inner voice inside that I believe was God telling me to not marry this man. Turned out he was HIV+ (I THANK GOD every day I never slept with him!). And he was a pastor too! I appreciate this topic so much, Dr. O!

AskDrO

@Nona and if there are other topics or videos you want, please let me know. Would you like me to start a forum on DL brothers.

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