How To Tell If Your Spouse/Lover Is Cheating (Relationship 101 Series)

1.  They are frequently in areas with no cell-phone tower  or coverage.

2.  They exhibit very poor eye-contact when confronted about the issue of cheating.

3.  He/She has a number of questionable late afternoon/evening meetings.

4.  Your spouse/lover exhibits a decreased need for sexual relations with you. They may claim depression as an illness.

5.  You go to the doctor and find out that you have an STD(s).

6.  Your mate displays new aggressive behavior towards you suddenly without cause.

7.  He/She exhibits unusual and excessive fatigue.

8.  You discover unusual credit card charges and odd-time bank withdrawals.

9. Your spouse/lover attends more than two professionals conferences  in one calendar year.

10. “I’m working on a new project at work.”  Response when questioned about unusual hours.

However, if your spouse/lover is a pilot, physician or preacher the above rules may or may  NOT apply. You should be extra paranoid at ANY unusual or strange  behaviors from this group. (two cell-phones, extra call nights, multiple work locations, etc.)  Some people in these professions maybe skilled in fabricating whereabouts and a few of them have a  higher propensity for participating in extra-marital affairs.  Also, some Lawyers and Law-Enforcement personell fall into a separate category. Many of us personally know why.  Whatever your spouse or lovers profession may be, if there is a sudden change in their normal behaviors/routines then it’s probably time to raise an eyebrow.

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I want to know what you think some more signs of cheating are based on your experience . How have you caught your significant other in the act? Also, if you have cheated how did you get caught? How did you get away with it? I would love to see your comments!

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  • Adonis

    I think many of us can agree that we all have been in a relationship and been cheated on. It has almost become the norm for men to cheat hence the term “playa..playa”…I feel there is noting wrong with dating multiple people as long as they know they arent the only one and they are just a number amongst many . My issue with cheating occurs when reckless behavior and lies lead to physical altercations, health risk, and stress. Everyone can not stand a liar! So my 2 cent on this topic is if your going to be a “playa” just be up front (be a real “G”) you would be suprised at the response most women/men are okay with it…so the end result is everyone is on the same page and no one gets hurts.

    • admin

      @Adonis I am not sure that “cheating is the norm in society.” Maybe a course in “how to Effectively Love your mate or Trust 101 would be good, but to endorse cheating I think is both physically and emotionally dangerous. Would you concur?

  • Christopher

    Do these rules apply to homosexual relationships as well?

  • Essdie

    Man! This is my question, WHAT does Dr.O have against professions that start with the letters “P” and “l”? Did you forget about painters, principals, and printers? What about the professions that start with the other 24 letters of the alphabet? lol

    Seriously though, this is a good start to the list, but it leaves out a few of my personal favorites like:

    a. They smell fresh and clean at the END of a long day’s work!

    b. They start showing up with new jewelry that you didn’t buy (and neither did they).

    c. They hum love songs while doing undesirable jobs like cleaning the toilet, think about that!

    d. They volunteer to do jobs like cleaning the toilet when they never did before.

    e. They suddenly find a long lost relative of the opposite (or same @Christopher) sex that they want to get to know better and spend time with. You can’t come along because it’s just boring family stuff. This is when they are cheating right up in your face.

    f. When they DO show up, they treat you much sweeter than normal and/or bring gifts for you.

    g. My personal favorite…they start giving a damn about personal appearance when they never did before.

    I know this info from BOTH sides of the cheating coin.

    • admin

      @Essdie When will you offer the course on “How to Cheat Properly?”

  • Essdie

    Come on now Dr. O, what makes you think an innocent like me would know how to conduct such a class?!! :)

    • admin

      @EssDie I am sure that you know, “Experience is the Best Teacher!” (LOL)

  • Roy

    Is an emotional affair the same as sexual one. And can an emotional affair lead to getting physical.

    • AskDrO

      @ Roy certainly…I would recommend marital counseling as soon as possible.

    • AskDrO

      @Roy. Yes, and sometimes when it is emotional it can actually be more intense.

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