My entire belief is, if they will cheat on their husband or wife, what makes u so special that they wont do it to YOU?
Im quite sure its not their first time stepping out and it damn sure wont be their last.
The best thing is to find someone who respects themselves and respects you.
Who would want to share someone that they care about with someone else? Especially when you only have limited access to them. They took a vow to be committed to that one person. If they dont want to be in that relationship, then get out and be single. I think its selfish and unfair. im speaking on general and not directly to any one personal relationship. But I for one would have more resepct for my self than to play second to anyone and put up with the lies and deceit…Im just saying….

LaTasha: I am not one to judge, and I can’t help but think your anger was misguided towards Dr. O because you knew you were wrong. You are an evangelist so you know what I mean by saying – “He stepped on your toes with his post”. There is no need to ask him what to do, you in your heart already know. As a person who believes-you know what to do- and as a woman of God-you DEFINITELY know what to do as you are held more accountable in your actions. There are sins – No one sin is bigger than the other – however, just remember one of the ones you are committing is one of the Ten Commandments. The only thing I will say that I absolutely do NOT agree with what you did and that is introducing your children to him. What are you teaching them? If you are okay with him going home to someone else,then that means your feelings aren’t that deep for him-yet you introduce him to your children. Besides the fact he is married, Kids should never be involved in a relationship that has the potential of being temporary.

Now, with all that said concerning your morals spiritually. Let me say this like I tell other women. You are selling yourself short. You are accepting being second, or third, (you really don’t know)-when you should be first. Love yourself enough that you want to be the only one, not just number 1 because that means there is a #2, #3, etc. Also, I am sure it is all fine and dandy when you two are together, it is new and exciting, and you are on borrowed time, so you never get to see the real him. His wife doesn’t understand him, yet he married her, never fall for any of that. His wife may not understand him because he is spending his time at your house talking to you. She sees the side that you don’t see. I am sure his wife could tell you a few war stories, and if we all would stop looking at how green the grass is on the otherside and take time to water our own then we would see how green our grass will be. Also, remember under that green grass is a pile of (s***) that made it that way. You won’t be blessed with another man because you have one in your life that isn’t yours blocking access. let me give you a hint: Orgasms for a woman are more MENTAl release than they are a physical release-so your having them with him is because of the “excitement”, the “newness and danger” of what the person is as to why you are experiencing the pleasure.
He is not your boyfriend, he is someone else’s husband – there is a difference. He can never be that or your man, when there is another woman out there with a piece of paper that states he is hers.

I think your suspicions towards your husband, and unresolved things in your marriage has caused you to become someone you aren’t. You have an affair because you’re too scared to release your heart to anyone, so you see this as the best avenue.

I can’t say that he won’t be with you, I have seen it happen a couple of times, where people have come together out of adulterous affairs and made it. One couple that I know of has been together now 15 years. That lets me know that sometimes a person may be married to a person that was not intended for them. Was it wrong the way they got together? Of course, and I am sure they suffered alot, BUT they made it.

For me it is like this……Things happen in life, if a man steps out on his wife, I think that the couple should discuss it, learn from it, and move forward. HOWEVER, if this is a repeated offense, then it is still time to move forward JUST ALONE.

One time is a mistake, several times is a pattern.