BOMBSHELL: “Gays in the Military: Correction Gays in the Black Church”

I really enjoyed this video. Well guys/gals we are now beginning to scratch the surface of the real issues with this national scandal. Is it about Eddie Long’s character? Is it about young men that have been cut off by a Sugar Pastor (I mean Sugar  Daddy)? Is it about sexual coercion in the church? Finally, is it about the sexuality of African-American men (both young and old) in the church? Guess what: I think Bishop Carlton Pearson is on to something.  We may not want to admit it but something went terribly wrong in both the short-term and long-term relationships that Bishop Long had with the Long Fellows!

I saw the pain in Jamal Parris’  eyes on the news tonight (stay tuned for that post). “How he left us and he used scripture to justify sex. He just walked away from  us when we did not give him what he wanted. He made me cry many nights when driving home in his car.  He turned his back on us; he had no more need for us. I was not able to take enough showers to get the smell of his cologne off of me!”

Many of you have challenged me and even almost cursed me out about my “continued” writings on this subject. However, if I write about any other topics, such as Shh! Generational Curse: African-American Male Sexual Abuse in the Community and Church, I get absolutely NO feedback. I am wondering if it is my subject and verb agreement?  Was it my syntax or improper use of pronouns? I don’t have the answer but there were absolutely no likes checked on this post.  However, when I checked Google Analytics many people read it but did not give me any feedback. I understand.

Folks, here it is: the African-American church does not welcome men or women. We have an unwritten, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. Therefore a lot of gay bashing, controversial messages and political unrest is shown in most of our sanctuaries. Have you ever been in a service and heard your Pastor or First Lady bash the gays and the choir stand is full of men who love other men? Have you ever had a male church member, single and under the age of 40 to die and everybody start whispering and asking, “What he die from?”  Do you  remember that favorite Deacon Brown who never had a wife and baked the best sweet potato pies in the church? Have you ever seen a Chariman of the Trustees give back the tithes to a member with an alternative lifestyle.? Who is your favorite hair stylist from the church?  These are all queries that point to a church (the Black church) that may not accept or practice inclusion, but possibly has diversity in the church.

Let me break it down a litte further for those who are having difficulty with the post. It’s apparent that many facets of our culture is influenced by those from all walks of life (even Gospel music). If you live in America, everybody by now has a brother, sister, cousin, choir member, usher or friend who is gay. Yet and still the Black church is not ready to deal with this issue. This is certainly a candidate for the etiology of this mess in Atlanta. On yes I am going to confront the issues.  I believe in deliverance, of course, but you have to want to be delivered.  That means Pastors, Missionaries, Saints and Friends.  However, the Bible teaches with Love and Kindness have I drawn….not bashing , ridiculing or exile. I am not sure what Bishop Long or his accusers are struggling with from their past or their present, but “Something in Rotten in the State of Denmark!” I think my dear scarlet. we have stumbled across one of the real issues with this national Black Church Scandal:   Gays in the Military, Naw Gays in the African-American church.

The young men did not talk until now because they were afraid. That is a fact and not an opinion. Is the church responsible for  turning our young men out? I am now angry as Hell! Do not post a comment telling me to tell people to pray,we need to make sure these young men are o.k. I am appauled at all the silly people who would think those children are lying. I really want to curse right now, but I will not because I am saved! However, Bishop Long you need to  throw one of the five stones. You really need to and  right now!

Do you think that there needs to be more discussion on this issue in the church? Could this possibly be one of the issues that has thistopis so hot and or intense? Stay tuned I am HOT!  Next PostThey Ain’t Lying!”

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  • jb bailey

    Good Morning Dr. O ….ref. Speaking OUT!
    MODERN DAY CRUCIFIXION
    Now, I understand more why Jesus did not always answer his accusers or give them what they (WANTED) to hear when they wanted an answer from him! Are you the Son of GOD…”TELL US”? “Who SINNED…this man of his parents”? “Shouldn’t she be STONED according to MOSES?…she was caught in the very ACT of Adultery! What DO you say Jesus? These were dignitary, renowned, educated folk, college professors, even TV reporters and talk-show hosts. Hmmmm…he neither said yea or nay when THEY wanted him to answer, but THEY still CRUCIFIED him! But had they known the outcome…they would have left him alone. The DEVIL knows TRUTH, but he doesn’t know everything!
    Please take time to read :

    John 8 verses 5-10 (stooped)
    1 John 3 verses 11-15 (vs.13 hatred pursued)
    Ecc. 5:8 (God the overall Official)

    John 18:
    28Then led they Jesus from Caiaphas unto the hall of judgment: and it was early; and they themselves went not into the judgment hall, lest they should be defiled; but that they might eat the passover.
    29Pilate then went out unto them, and said, What accusation bring ye against this man?
    30They answered and said unto him, If he were not a malefactor, we would not have delivered him up unto thee.
    31Then said Pilate unto them, Take ye him, and judge him according to your law. The Jews therefore said unto him, It is not lawful for us to put any man to death:
    32That the saying of Jesus might be fulfilled, which he spake, signifying what death he should die.
    33Then Pilate entered into the judgment hall again, and called Jesus, and said unto him, Art thou the King of the Jews?
    34Jesus answered him, Sayest thou this thing of thyself, or did others tell it thee of me?
    35Pilate answered, Am I a Jew? Thine own nation and the chief priests have delivered thee unto me: what hast thou done?
    36Jesus answered, My kingdom is not of this world: if my kingdom were of this world, then would my servants fight, that I should not be delivered to the Jews: but now is my kingdom not from hence.
    37Pilate therefore said unto him, Art thou a king then? Jesus answered, Thou sayest that I am a king. To this end was I born, and for this cause came I into the world, that I should bear witness unto the truth. Every one that is of the truth heareth my voice.
    38Pilate saith unto him, What is truth? And when he had said this, he went out again unto the Jews, and saith unto them, I find in him no fault at all.
    39But ye have a custom, that I should release unto you one at the passover: will ye therefore that I release unto you the King of the Jews?
    40Then cried they all again, saying, Not this man, but Barabbas. Now Barabbas was a ROBBER!…..go figure!

    • AskDrO

      @jb bailey. Thank you sir for your feedback.

  • Terrance

    Dr. Owens (Dr. O), I have read some of your blogs and liked what I read. I agree that our (black) churches and/or communities are selective and wants to “sweep” the taboos under the rug. We deal and/or still dealing with the external issues: racism, disparities, economic class. Rather than deal with the internal issues: sexuality, sensuality, womanism, self-worth, inter-breeding of races, etc. We have to shake this “masculine theology”. We have to ask ourselves: Why are things the way they are with Blacks? Not dealing with our inner issues.

    • AskDrO

      @Terrance thanks for the insightful note!

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