1. RECOGNIZE When It Is Over.
2. ACCEPT When It Is Over.
3. Feel BETTER about YOU.
4. Don’t PLAY with Make-Up Sex!
5. WORK on your Spiritual Being.
6. DEVELOP a PLAN to MOVE Forward in YOUR Life.
7. Discover WHO you really Are. (The New You)
8. FREE yourself.
9. AUTHENTICATE your Hurts, but don’t dwell on them.
10. Finally, JUST LET IT GO!
The list above is ten items that I think will help you to move forward. Surviving a “Bad/Abusive” Relationship may not be easy, but this task has been accomplished by many of us. You can not be afraid of change or letting GO! This week promise yourself that things will be better. Also, take this list and post it up on your bathroommirror, on your refrigerator door, inside your work area or in your blackberry/cell-phone.
After a break-up, you’re often left wondering how you’re going to pick up the pieces. How do you move on after you’ve been physically and spiritually intimate with someone for a portion of your life, have invested your time into one another and possibly have a family with? It may be challenging at first, but you can do it. You may wonder if you’ll ever find another love like the one you had, but you’ll never know that unless you try. However, keep in mind that divorce is rough and you shouldn’t rush into anything new until you’ve completely gotten over it legally and emotionally.
According to Elizabeth DenHam, of the Huffington Post, there are a number of ways to tell if you’re prematurelydating after a divorce. The most obvious one being that if you’re still legally married then you’re not ready to date. After 15 years of marriage, it’s understandable if your divorce proceedings are long and drawn out because there’s probably tons of stuff to sort out. It’s important that you take the appropriate amount of time to work out custody and assets but don’t fill the gaps between court dates with romantic ones. “If you are in the midst of divorce hell, which is not attractive to anyone, it’s not fair to expect someone else to shoulder that burden with you. Wait until you are really free”.
Here are a few more signs that you’re not ready to date after divorce.
-If you still feel married
-If you haven’t been divorced for at least a year
-You’re still angry
It’s great to be single and ready to mingle but make sure that you’re completely free from old ties before you get back out there. Other than necessary contact such as for a child or children’s sake, wash your hands of the past relationship so that you’ll be free to start a new one.
For more relationship advice, purchase my new book, “Am I in a Bad Relationship?”
This week take the opportunity to perform a self-evaluation. If you have been having sleepless nights, crying spells or flashbacks from a previous bad relationship or abuse, please go to the Dr. Owens, M.D. Pre-Screen Mental Health Assessment and check your mental health status.
Also, leave a comment on the blog. Oftentimes, you will say what others are thinking. Help me as I help others “RUN” out of abusive and bad relationships. Please comment on this post………