In reality there is no correct age for marriage. “Age aint nothing but a number”, are the lyrics to a popular song that many of us know, debuted by Aliyah during the 90’s. It really depends on your love and your true feelings and affection towards that person. It takes maturity and trust to be able to commit to one person for the REST of your life. Per my experience most people would agree that the respectable age to marry is between your thirty’s and forty’s.
A lot of people believe that when you are young and trying to marry, that you really don’t know yourself yet. There are different types of relationships, so you really cannot compare your past relationships to your present relationships.
In today’s society the belief is that we marry for comfort and security as oppose to love. Utilizing manipulative techniques to conjure their partners into a life time of hell and anguish. While they participate in parasitic relationships. Does TRUE love really exist anymore?
Ages twenty-two through twenty-five you and your mate are young, so you have the opportunity to grow, change, and move in the same direction as a couple.
If you are under twenty-five you may not know yourself as well as you think, you might also still be skeptical about your decisions and what you may want in life. Also, values often change quite a bit when you’re young, you have a tendency to be idealistic and naive during your early twenties.
The fifty percent divorce rate that’s is so often cited in America specifically comes from the people who get married from ages twenty to twenty-three. Now, people in America get married when they aren’t even financially stable.
Ages thirty to thirty-five, you’re mature and confident about what you want. At this age you are secure with both your career and personal finances . Not only do you know who you are and what you want out of life, you also have good sense of knowing what you need out of your romantic partner. A women over thirty is only eight percent likely to get divorced, pretty good odds compared to twenty percent for those who marry at age twenty-seven through twenty-nine.
The overall idea is that age doesn’t define your marriage, trust, knowing exactly what you want out of life, true feelings and maturity defines your marriage. All of these characteristics make up the perfect formula for a good marriage. Plus or minus some, depending on the type of person you are. Let me know what your opinions are? What do you think the perfect age is for marriage. For more reading check out my book: Am I in a Bad Relationship.
Enough Said,
Dr. O
